Why would she spread lies that arnt true? Jrh, Im so sorry it sounds like the mess Im in what was me no woe is them they have to be miserable and I dont think that its just them being mean I think theyre f****** evil so I hope that you sell your house soon that you can be free and break away from them and never have to see them again and the love and happiness find you and cover you for the rest of your life bless you, I can totally relateI been with my Bf for few years known him for almost 9. You need to leave him and get therapy. He now calls me names when hes mad, disrespects me and has zero consideration for my feelings. Dig up some books and magazines that cover the subject. But one thing i will guarantee you is that you will smile through all the bad because at the end of the day, your soul knows you are not being truthful to yourself. She is an enabler she could of stopped all this , but no she always blames the victim. Herein lies the problem: my soul mate believes that I am being flirtatious, attempting to connect with others in a less than innocent way, that I am not over my ex, who up till recently was my best friend on a strictly platonic basis, as I found we were much more successful when I didnt put him in a position where he could be tempted into dishonesty in other words, I broke up with him because he had been unable to remain faithful and unwilling to admit that, and I eventually found that I wanted to move on. Well not really I can tell you why youve tolerated and condoned this behaviour, its because you felt that you deserved this because you fucked up and this is your punishment or way of making it up to your husband am I right? I could really use some help with how to approach a conversation in a more productive manner. At any rate, you shouldnt have to guess.
I met her at the wrong time. We dont do things I like to do and when I want to go ahead and do what I want to do, he pops an attitude. 
You can always say no to unnecessary crazy. The sounds women make during sex are almost indistinguishable from distress. My family or friends didnt like him wanted me to break up with him from the beginning I loved him and didnt understand how I could with the way he treated me. The relationships seems to have turned into one that isnt flourishing in the present and future but instead is living in the past. What's a good comeback when someone jokingly calls you old?
He can go full rage mode about the fact that I didnt admit to being wrong right away. See why it works for them? Stop trying to please them. Get a new routine everyday and keep yourself busy pray for strength Im so embarrassed I let another human being treat me this way but this was manipulation at its finest God bless anybody that is going through this hell I wish you love and happiness and if you can keep me in your prayers for strength I would greatly appreciate it , Oh my God, I see my daughter in a lot of these comments, she is the most horrible person in my life, she abuses me, does a lot of the things on here, lies, makes up lies about me to all the family, she wishes I was murdered or die, she hits herself if I try to block her out of my room and says shes filing charges on me, calls all kinds of names, argues with all of my visitors, embarrasses me, by blowing up in front of them, threatens to call police and tell them i abused her, she had an accident, and I had to let her move in, took care of her, but nothing was enough, shes selfish, greedy, picks the lock in my room, takes pictures of my private files, drink up my wine, steals my things, hides my remote controls, hides my shoes, just anything she can, she tells people I am forgetful, and I am getting senile, and she threatens to have me committed, she threatens to take all her pain pills, its a constant battle she fights with my pregnant granddaughter, my four year o grandchild throws things at her, when shes mean to me, she lives here but has recently got full disability, so I filed to have her removed, omgosh I see myself in your articles, always a peace , fixing up person. What matters are the people who put their trust in us and our products (you) and the businesses and people we connect to and partner with. Ill leave you with one of my favourite quotes. Something that was so personal to me that I just couldnt believe he said it.
One other sign I have is I hate hate HATE the way it feels when rough fabric scrapes against my finger nails and if I feel a hair or thread hook to part of my nail I cringe and have to cut that part of my nail off. I find I am dealing with everything now , it began subtly years ago but I was oblivious to what was going on . How likely are people to come and approach you to make conversation? If I dare to say anything back, its WW3. For the longest time I believed my boyfriends family liked me and saw me as friend but in reality they didn't and thought I was anoying. Shed project her own insecurities and issues onto me and make me suffer through hell. You both deserve a better life w/ a partner that builds you up, not tears you down. It will be hard. My( possibly) toxic person is my husband. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you. As with all important things, children dont learn from harsh words or a harsh responses. If I guy invites you up to his apartment, does that mean he has certain intensions? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. You are certainly not alone in your struggle and the frustrating part is people like them always see it as other peoples faultnot their own actions. Its sad because one goes into a relationship for love but at the end, it is just a fairy tale story in our hearts.. I very much hope you are okay and that you have gotten through this, or are getting through it now. When a man treats u badly after yrs of faithfulness but still accuses u of being unfit or unfaithful then u need to move on. Well that an issue there as is sounds addict behavior. You are worth it and sometimes in order to save someone else from that life, you have to save yourself first, and it isnt a selfish act to take care of yourself. It was never meant to be about that. I finally did ask for my money back, but I was told she thought it was a gift. I wish you could have received the love you needed as a child. Ive slowly been taking on the role of housewife without the marriage or children. He has nothing positive, constructive or even nice to say. This ties into his belief that i cannot be accountable for my actions, and that I am projecting my insecurities onto him or twisting it to where it appears he is the one with the problem, as I do believe he has trust issues and that his suspicions are unwarranted. He bought me a pandora necklace he picked out all the charms places or things we did I noticed was his ideas not mine when ever he got upset with me he would go to his exs to talk about me started to call me a bitch if I anytime I disagreed with him and so so much more. She would threaten to kill or cut herself because I was ignoring her when I dared spend any time with anyone but her. I wish this article had existed when I was in 3rd-6th grade. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that You are LOVED. Plus I have not dated in over 30 years. Thinking this would help to describe what I had been talking about, I contacted this man and gave him my number, requesting the link and telling him that I had been noticing some of his other posts about politics that were in alignment with my beliefs. Her and her insecure daughter are in need of some kind of constant validation from the world at all times and it is really scary. Mostly for children. I had to learn that the hard way. I cant have a single conversation with her without it ending in a screaming match. When you are living with someone thats kind of rude dude to not acknowledge the kindness. He could have left you and gone else, nobody held him against his will, he made the DECISION to stay with you. I thought I was doing pretty dang good but I guess not. Ive never been treated this badly in my life. The time it takes and the bumps along the way are no reflection on the adults doing the teaching, or the children doing the learning, but a reflection on the magnitude of the challenge. A lot of different people I've encountered thoughout my life have called me stupid, retarded or weird behind my back. Very sad . Relationships becoming a thing of the past? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. it shows also in the fact that you doubt yourself and wonder if you are the problem. Who he can feel he protects without being controlling. You are causing your own pain. After a year or 2 I kept on sending messages to her to ask how shes been doing, I worried if she had settled in Her new workplace only to get a very cold reply that she was busy. I was trying to GENTLY encourage him to leave.. but nope.. he refused.. My Friend ( the wife) stayed up and continued to host. they were drinking.. quite heavily.. but the other husband never acted drunk, or like an ass.. not once.. but mine did!.. Theres no hurry for this. You simply will never be good enough. She can be really nice person and asks how i am and how my family are but other times she can be really mean and disrespectful. He doesnt even get turned on by me either.please guys what the hell do I do now because you cant chan he a man or a women thats mindset is in that zone. He also gave his friend a 1,000 dollar mattress that had stains and now I have to help buy a new mattress. I found out that my husband was cheating on me BIG Time and that means seeing woman in person and on social media .. I also have a bad short term memory and I can never remember the start of any argument and i feel like he uses it against me. Think of it like being their anchor in their emotional storm. The next morning.. when he had sobered up.. Im not a slave driver but a response to my text in like 5 minutes would be nice. But in the long term if you find out that he did mean you to feel degraded, you might feel not just betrayed, sad, etc etc, but the big danger is if you start to consider yourself defective and feel ashamed of being who you are. I am always guessing and asking and checking always that Im not offending or hurting anyone. We decided to end it.. I was eventually violently chased out of our marital home and lived elsewhere for about 3 months, I was destitute Because Im completely dependent on him and he had no care so just before the divorce went through we reconciled, started a business with partners and everything was great! I dont think there is anything that can fix this rift between us. Everything in this article is him!! Move on from the manipulator . Hi Numb, What you said has really touched me and I just want you to know that there are many people out here who understand and have been through much of what you have. If im honest I am the same , I do have alot of people leaning on me including my daughter and friends ect. Two weeks ago.. he got mad at me about something.. and told me everyone hates being around me because IM negative. At least he was honest with you. Forgive because this allows you to let go of hurt and anger but dont forget because you need to know when sombody has run out of chances. They are cruel on purpose. That is.. unless hes giving me the silent treatment, or repeats the very last word of any question I ask in making conversation its maddening and I feel like I am worth so much more than to be a doormat. He started screaming and cursing me.. telling me I think Im always right, and that I think he doesnt know what hes talking about.. accusing me of saying he isnt supportive of me (even though I didnt say that) I am NOW I guess.. but Id never say that to HIM how useless I am.. how much smarter than me he is.. because he works in a highly paid job and I dont etc etc etc. I work part time, Im a full time student and a mother.. I always have to tell girls asking thIS same exact question: NO HIDDEN MEANINGSNaive basically means you are ignorant of something because you are young and inexperienced. Its called projection, as in projecting their feelings and thoughts onto you. She would become angry when I took time for myself or to spend time with my other friends and would spread rumors and lies that I had beat her up or abused her so no one would be my friend except for her. Did he end up seeing his destructive behaviour? It took several years for my eyes to finally open up and understand that it will only get worse before it gets better. Its hard to hear this I know, but there comes a time in life when you have to realize that unless you decide that you arent going to allow this treatment anymore, you will be stuck right where you are. Im having a hard time letting go of him. If I respond, she talks over me shouts over me. 
