I confronted her with her verbally and emotionally abusive behaviour over 14 years ago and she became the most vile vindictive raging maniac I ever experienced in my life just screaming and screaming at me.then she was extremely sarcastic and abusive at every family gathering to the point my adult daughter told me she was proud of me as she saw how I was being treated without responding to my sister in the same way. I had no idea she could be so hateful it rocked me to my very core and made me question my entire life. I refused to outwardly acknowledge or put on the table how poorly they were treating g me. She made a pass at every boyfriend I had. I dont know if my sister treats her like a narcissistic equal or treats her poorly. And lately, shes been spending nights searching me out on the Internet, trying to find any any every place Ive hidden myself from her to try and get away from her narcissistic abuse. I had no access to my medication & had a seizure because of it. She doesnt even realize that by causing the biggest betrayal I have ever endured she have me the greatest gift of my life, total freedom.
I really didnt understand that this behavior was abusive towards her until I was well into my 20s. We have both distanced ourselves from her now. That was itI turned my back on her. Enter my sister. Im not sure that I can reply to you directly on this site like this, but here goes. I am very learly of medicine, people who know me know I barely even take a Tylenol much less anything else. Mom had nowhere to go. Holy cow. Ive been watching her rewrite history for more than a year; now, both parents were abusive and her whole upbringing was abusive. Hang in there and just remember, she. Today I prayed. Can a 10 year old become a narcissist? accountspayable to ME! As I said above, I dont know anything about you, but I hope this helps. My life with my younger sister parallels this almost to the letter. Ps whenever we fight she said to me how dare you say this but then when confronted with a serious issue she shows abuse. In fact, much money could be made working at mining companies located in towns ending in Creek. My sister flew down from Jersey to Florida to help prepare for my Mas Death. 
My sister and mother wouldnt allow it. For years I worked at being her friend, helping her as much as I could, supporting her as much as I could. As her prince was dying, she needed a new rescuer. only this time I recognized what was happening. I learned that she tried to have me disinherited, which, fortunately did not happen. They both have a knack of hurting me and then dismissing my hurt and try to turn everything around so that the golden sister looks like shes the innocent one , when she isnt. She lies so much! Oldest sister was his most devoted minion and indoctrinator working on my fathers behalf, and she could do no wrong almost right up until the end.
Things are tense and she feels Im in the wrong for this. But, once again shes turned against me. It took me 49 years and her most intense and horrific betrayal towards me, followed by 2 1/2 years of excruciating grief and pain caused by this betrayal, to finally come to terms with the fact that my younger sister is, and always will be, an extreme sociopathic narcissist and her only purpose concerning me is to destroy my life. I have experienced her completely distorting reality including telling my parents I was screaming at her when in fact, she had been screaming at me. The cops came & my ex-sister fabricated a story of domestic battery. I credit for my father to allow them to rest during game this time of high stress.
So I overcame alot of my problems in hope that my mother and sisters would accept and love me. Especially since creepy comments have been made. Personally, I would suggest getting some quality professional help with a respected counselor/therapist to explore a decision that you are satisfied with, but it seems that you are already in the process in acting on a decision. She sees narcissism everywhere she looks, and the more she emphasizes it the more I realize its her. I hate that I have to negotiate this estate thing with her. Wow ?
Im only thankful that I am capable of recognizing the danger my child and I face if she gets too close to him. Now she is continuing to manifest this false front that makes her appear to always be right with me always wrong and as if she is this wonderful innocent person.
Emotional enmeshment with my other siblings is in full swing with the advent of texting and social media she has taken over the mother role, and relishes pointing that out to our own mother at any opportunity. Not sure how to negotiate this estate issue where everything is supposed to be divided equally when I really dont believe she is capable of being fairits like she doesnt know how to share and needs to take the best for herself while treating me like I am a second class citizen that is worthless. Thanks for this post! Reading your post was just exactly like me writing mine. My younger sister who gets married in a couple of weeks, has told me , only me and no other guests to her wedding, what I can and cant wear on the day.
The abuse is the familys best kept secret. A VERY Rickety-Rackkety situation indeed . She would play the loving concerns sister to get me to tell her all of my deepest and painful secrets, only to keep that information to use against me at another time. My youngest Sister was downright cruel to me & most of the family. I am empowered although saddened to read such familiar stories. My sister always said that she didnt want kids. Ugly generational habits repeat themselves, and seem to have become 10x worse with the baby-boomer/generation X set. I declined, not wanting to stoop to her level.
Of course if I had any doubt, my mother made sure to remind me that I wasnt as nice, didnt smile as much, wasnt liked as much as my sister and brother, was a constant problem for my parents, etc. I realised years ago that was down to him not liking people in the family having skills. Im always giving in to her. But with my sisters help and some shiesty atty my son lives with father and I get him whenever they see fit, even with a perfectly clean hair follicle test.
No contact, cards or anything. At least I have an understanding brother to confide in and whom I can comfort when he feels the way i do. What a thrilling experiencea life of unparalleled freedom and adventure. My only question now is which unfortunate child in the next generation will be designated IT. So sorryits awful living under the shadow of them. They both have a knack of hurting me and then dismissing my hurt and try to turn everything around so that the golden sister looks like shes the innocent one , when she isnt. I believe that if we are healthy and live life to the full; if we can interdependently pursue hobbies, education, social situations, and careers vigorously with both our partners and independently then we can truly enjoy life which sets us up to best deal with conflict, as in your case with your brothers when it arises. Now she is trying to steal my house under the pretense that I am mentally ill(I suffer from anxiety & depression) but I am definitely not incompetent! Neither of them have considered my feelings and what a complete outcast they have made me feel in all of this. And I was. She told lies, stole, caused trouble. Id suggest to leave such circumstances. I would suggest keeping your boundaries up, and practice saying no with a therapist, husband, work colleagues and friends. In FL, the plaintive gets to stay in my house while i lived like a refugee for 9 days. She told the police she acted in defense of our mother. I wont even try to have a relationship with her children because I know shes poisoned their hearts against me. My youngest Sister & an older Brother were the worst.
Im exhausted by it all. I later learned, while my father was on his deathbed, and before I arrived, my sister took my mother to an attourney and made her durable power of attorney. Ironically, my mother was always pegged as the crazy one, with her children thoroughly indoctrinated to hate her by my father. Then I found out from my Dads 2nd Wife that the debts were cleared by them.
Seems to me that all it is very toxic for you.
Now, I can focus on living. I chose to focus on hr,oing my father be as co fortable as possibke and kill them with kindness. it is heart-breaking to realize she sees me as an object to be used to meet her need for narcissistic supply and that she is incapable of any true empathy or compassion. I couldnt understand it. They altered my fathers last wishes to provide me an iheritance upon his death. Once I stopped telling her everything and agreeing with her on everything, I stopped being the good little girl and became the b*tch. And of course, because she was their little angel (shes my older sibling) they believed it hook, line and sinker, and I was automatically guilty, all because she gave them a sanitized version of what happened that conveniently left out any parts that would make her look bad and proved that she was the one who initiated it, and that all I was doing was standing up for myself & defending my space. Unbeknownst to me, the entire week I was there, they were hiding a dirty little secret. We were everywhere on top of the globe. . Cannibals everywhere. There appears to be this dynamic occurring where she takes the best before I can get there and I am left with what she does not want or value. Unfortunately, she has some random ways in which is is able to hoover my child when I am not around. Never forget that. She was and is still very effective in persuading people, to the point of being scary- capable of lying without batting an eye, even if its over something trivial. It was very hard living in a family with so many of them. This post describes my situation to a T. My sister is a dyed in the wool narcissist that thinks shes the center of the Universe. She would do kind things at times, but it was so she could have payback. My father abused me as a child and yet my younger sister has kept in touch with him , she would constantly talk of how wonderful he is to me, knowing full well that he abused me and also went to prison for raping a 13year old girl. She even went so far as to selectively edit some old LiveJournal posts I put up years ago, made it sound like I was bashing my parents and others, and sent these edited posts to out parents 10 days before Christmas one year. This seems the time for the major reckoning. Thankful I found this site. My mother has played the damsel in dustress her entire life, the perpetual, suffering victim. The last time I talked with my niece on the phone she was so rude and well, snotty. Perhaps it became more apparent when my own family started treating me that way as well on a regular basis. She had moved on to fetish modelling and has become so self obsessed, spends hours in front of the mirror, constantly on whether phone and Facebook and is poor company. 
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